As we grow older, our own sex life rapidly changes. There are a lot of different and occasionally surprising factors, which affect people’s sexual development and behavior. For example, a few years ago, researchers reported that teens who skipped breakfast were more likely to have early sexual intercourse! The very same study found that those who had difficult relationships with their mothers were also more likely to lose their virginity earlier. Why? Well, it’s actually hard to say. However, it does seem likely that young people who are leading disordered and unhappy lives. As well as those who know very little about sex, are particularly likely to have early intercourse. There’s now no doubt that adolescents who come from deprived backgrounds, and who have had inadequate sex education, are more prone to engage in sexual intercourse – and to have unwanted pregnancies. Read on to learn more about sexuality through life!
Sexuality: When does this start?
Recent research has states what Freud said so long ago is true. That to a certain extent, we are sexual beings from the very start of our existence. Moreover, some American scientists have even claimed that with the aid of special scans, male babies can be seen rubbing their penises while still in the womb. However, not everyone agrees with their interpretation of these images. We don’t.
Nonetheless, these days pretty well all experts agree that your sexuality has already begun when you are a baby. Psychologists say that even the youngest infants feel warmth, closeness, bodily contact and pleasant sensations when snuggling up to their mothers and sucking at the nipple. Sigmund Freud stated that the learning of sexuality commences at the mother’s breast.
Medical personnel have found by careful observation of small boys that they often get erections – particularly after the age of about seven. But sexuality does not exist only in the genitals. It’s part of everything surrounding you and who you are. That is why youngsters may become passionately fond of a film star, or a pop singer, etc.
So children are sexual beings to some extent that teenagers, adults and the elderly are sexual beings. Additionally, sexuality manifests itself differently at different ages. But it’s not until puberty –or sometimes considerably afterwards – that sex becomes a really powerful force.
We would like to make it clear that we do not think it’s a good idea for young people to have sexual activity until they have reached, at the very least, the minimum legal age for sex. Unfortunately, the fact that children have an inherent sexuality does make them vulnerable to predators. Parents should be aware of this fact – and try to be on their guard against those who want to exploit a child’s sexual curiosity.
Sexuality Through Life: Masturbation’s Start and Finish
Many boys start to touch and caress their sexual organs regularly when they are about seven years old. By the time they reach puberty, more than half of all males have tried to masturbate. This is either on their own or sometimes through play with their friends. So sexuality through life isn’t an issue for them if they have no partners.
On the other hand, females tend to begin to masturbate later in life, even though many little girls are quite curious about their genitals. Around the time that girls reach puberty, they may possibly begin to masturbate. However, often, this does not occur till much later in their teens – or even 20s.
While 80% of all boys masturbate regularly by the time they are 16, only half that percentage of 16-year-old girls have masturbated. But some studies suggest that by the time they reach the age of 20, about 80% of girls have tried masturbation.
It’s also noteworthy that some females now have the idea that if they don’t go in for regular self-stimulation, there must be something wrong with them! But a woman who doesn’t masturbate isn’t abnormal. It’s just that we’re all different. We have differing sex drives and express our sexuality in diverse ways.
Sexual Intercourse: When does it start?
By the time they reach the age of 25, the vast majority of people will have an experience in sex. This is either heterosexual or homosexual sexual intercourse.
Only a small percentage of men and women remain virgins throughout their lives. The age at which sexual intercourse first occurs has a drop during the last few decades. While figures vary from country to country, actually, the UK girls are likely to have sex for the first time at a slightly younger age than boys.
Research studies vary slightly in the results they produce, but the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (NATSAL) in 2013 state that, in the UK, the average age of ‘first sex’ among young people age between 16 and 24 is now 16.
Unfortunately, many teenagers don’t use contraception –and they may have no idea at all about the risks of STIs. Even though we say that sexuality through life is necessary, there is no denying that we still need some precautions.