In a recent discussion, there are some people who already don’t get any sexual satisfaction, especially in their 60s-70s. There are some who find it so hard to find someone who is sexually eager with them. This may be a bit surprising to some, but believe me, it should not! After all, all of us are entitled to satisfying and healthy sex life. One survey even say that the lack of sex is a much greater cause of distress to the elderlies, for instance, in UK than in the housebound. Good thing, there are some ways to feel sexual satisfaction in 60s and 70s.
Sexual Satisfaction in the 60s and 70s
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A lot of factors actually come in to play when it comes to age and our sex drive:
For instance, in men, testosterone falls gradually from the forties onward. While it’s not the be all and end all of sex, it form the powerhouse behind the sex drive in men. So that they may note a reduction in libido over time. Women similarly have a lower amount of sex hormones. Most especially estrogen and progesterone, after the menopause and they make a small amount of testosterone. Lower levels of these three can contribute to a reduction in biological sex drive. However, these are not the only components. Disease processes, like diabetes or heart disease, stress, previous sexual experience, home-life situation and whether you still find your partner attractive or whether you still have an expectation to have sex in later life all contribute to the drive you feel.
Despite more barriers to an enjoyable sex life, it is possible to have regular, satisfying sex. As what I said above, there are different ways to feel sexual satisfaction in 60s and 70s.
Ways to Feel Sexual Satisfaction in 60s and 70s
Here are some of the best ways to feel sexual satisfaction in 60s and 70s:
Get hands on.
Masturbation is a great way of enjoying yourself. But why not do it with your partner? In my opinion, if you masturbate more than you have sex, you may have a more difficult time maintaining an erection during vaginal, oral or anal sex. This feels different to your brain than the tighter pressure of your hand. Try to limit masturbation, which can override the natural urge to have sex with another person. Women may find a high frequency vibrator applied to the clitoris or the vaginal opening is hugely satisfying. However, I recognize this isn’t for everyone.
Boost your body confidence.
Again, remember conversation is important when it comes to body confidence. Make your partner feel attractive in word, as well as in action. Caress, kiss and talk dirty. Do things together so you get used to intimacy and contact. Consider lingerie or go to the gym together. Exercise is good for mood and libido. Think about the last time you kissed or touched your partner for longer than ten seconds without having sex. There’s a technique called sensate focus that uses sexual exercises where you explore and learn about your partner’s body, meaning you work out how to arouse them without focusing on the genitals.
Explore some new desires and wants.
Relearn the landscape of each other’s bodies.Find out where the new erogenous zones are. How does your partner like them to be touched, sucked, penetrated, etc. Talk about what you want. Do you prefer other positions? Do you want to consider opening up your relationship? Always remember that the both of you might take the longer to have a warm up. Therefore, flirty conversation or note on what may happen later on may start the fire.
Be well aware of the genital stimulation.
Men may need more genital stimulation than before and may not always get an erection. Remember that this is more common as people get older and that it’s not an indication of how attractive someone might find his partner. Erections sometimes need a bit of help, too. However, as they are dependent on blood flow, they need high arousal and a good heart. So get checked by your GP if you have persisting erectile difficulties. There might be a psychological component and some medications, or smoking and alcohol can have a negative effect. Everyone seems to know about sildenafil. But penile constrictor devices and vacuum devices are increasingly popular. Discuss them with a doctor with a special interest in sexual function, though. PCDs shouldn’t however be left on for more than 30 mins or used in patients taking any blood thinners like aspirin or warfarin.
There is a reason if one of you wants more or less sex.
Although this might open a can of worms, work out the reasons why one partner may not want sex, or as much as the other person in the relationship. Reasons for this could be anything from having an empty nest and facing alone time with someone for the first time in 20+ years to appearance, to losing interest or sexual excitement. If the relationship is healthy, it may simply be a matter of relearning each other’s bodies – think likes and dislikes. Lower estrogen levels can change the sense of touch a woman feels. Hence, what may have turned her on before may not do now. It’s about learning a new landscape but being open to that and not blaming her or yourself.
There you have it –the ways to feel sexual satisfaction in 60s and 70s.